One of my ALL time favourites! So often we try to mould and bend and break so that a person fits our idea of how we think they SHOULD be. In the beginning of a new encounter with someone, the relationship is stress-free as there are no expectations...three months down the line suddenly you're pissed off with this person because you have created an idea of what you think this person should be to suit YOUR needs. It's selfish. Allow people to be who they are, fully. If they do not meet your expectations that is your fault, not theirs because you put the expectations there.
"To wait patiently for a person to become of different character is completely futile. You will waste your life hoping the lion will take up piano so you can dance. Wake up. Free the lion to find a lioness and go find yourself a musician".
Most of you don't know that I am a qualified Life Coach & NLP Practitioner. When I got retrenched in 2011 I did a course shortly after that because I was convinced my calling was to help people. To inspire them to become better at being their authentic selves. The course was fascinating yet something fizzled out in me as I walked away with my certificates and a puffed out chest; the effervescence of the excitement with which I originally started had bubbled away and left me feeling rather empty and confused. What now? I guess it was my soul speaking and I knew..."this is not where your future lies girlfriend...where you are headed may incorporate what you paid for to do this course but this is not to be your destiny".
I learned during this emptiness that people sometimes do not want to be helped. They love their misery. There is nothing you can do for a damsel who loves her distress and no matter how much you try you will never convince the 'poor me's' that there is a beautiful life of choice beyond the walls of misery they lock themselves behind. It appears they have chosen a life of melancholy and loneliness in their desperate need to be loved in a way that many cannot accommodate. It's a love that many do not understand, a toxic love that requires 24 hour attention and no one has that time to give. The best you can do is love from a distance because we each have a journey unique to our own soulprint. Sometimes that journey requires love and loss, to walk away from anything that does not serve you in the best way possible. Don't feel guilty, they will not miss you as much as you would like to believe they will.
Save yourself for the sake of your own goodness.
Ancient spirals represent the winding journey inward we must take if we're to truly know and love ourselves.
From that journey we return with more power and wisdom
Compassion hurts. When you feel connected to everything, you also feel responsible for everything. And you cannot turn away. Your destiny is bound to the destiny of others. You must either learn to carry the Universe or be crushed by it. You must grow strong enough to love the world, yet empty enough to sit down at the same table with its worst horrors.
~ Andrew Boyd
How I see it...
I see, speak and write in metaphors because I feel there is much we can learn from nature, people and our surroundings as depicted in my photographs and why I enjoy sharing my thoughts. Not in any attempt to convince or convert you to my way of thinking, seeing or feeling but to share how I see and experience MY mind map of the world. You at no time have to agree, all I ask is that my views and the views of others who wish to express theirs are kindly respected. So relax, get comfy and just enjoy. Happy reading!